Monday, 10 December. After nearly 4 months in Denmark, I can't wait for my flight to Bulgaria. I really want to see my friends and parents again and to spend 25 days at home, to take new fresh power for the long winter and spring. When I think of my past, I have the thoughts that I will buy one-way ticket to Denmark and I'll never come back. I've thought that there is no love in Bulgaria, nothing good waits for me if I stay, but i go to the idealistic Denmark, full of education, full of workplaces, where everyone will welcome you.
After 4 months I think that even Denmark has some benefits and better economical balance than Bulgaria, I will not set up my whole life here, I'll not stay in this country for the rest of my life. One of the reasons for this choice are my meetings with immigrants. I met several times such people and I don't have positive feelings about them. They are really obsessed by the Danish culture, they don't see another alternative, and if you show interest of this country, they will start to follow you, to give you advices, you should get from your parents and they will be very unhappy if they hear you complain about this culture. They will even go very deep into your privacy, which makes every stressed. I can give you three examples.
The ambitious woman from the village. She has moved in August 2007 from a small village in Romania to Copenhagen. She has studied marketing management and she works for the international office of my school. She is responsible for the new students and really ambitious. She goes to educational fairs and making nice presentations of the school, but when it comes to the real thing you realize that life is not in rose. It is said, that school provides kick-start program in July to find accommodation, but in fact they don't help. You are alone, with another students and should find your place in the great accommodation fight in the summer. If you come in August to try your luck getting room in the campus dorm, she will send you to the Polish hostel to search together with people you never knew before. When it comes to contract, it's much easier a contract between one person and landlord/dormitory than with 2,3,4 or more persons and this is why I prefer to live alone. In her opinion you should either not come to Denmark or integrate in the society for the rest of your life. If you send her whatever mail, she will provide you long answer describing how it's perfect and if you say you have a problem, she will remember it for the rest of both lives. Since this year the housing situation was even harder, she wanted that after lectures she will control students as she is their mother that they are searching and not playing games or chatting with friends.
The facebook stalker. He came here in August 2010 and I am pretty sure he would like to stay here forever. He is a programmer and I found him in a facebook group to ask for more info about my future studies. At the beginning he gave me nice answer, but showing that he has come differently - with own money and own transport. He loves Denmark with all its benefits and negative sides and as he really likes to comment my posts or pictures, I see how he forces me stop complaining, think the same way as him, forget that I am young and need more experience than just moving to Denmark. Again he behaves as he is my parent.
My roommate in the Polish hostel is Somalian immigrant, arrived here 12 years ago. He had good life, but he tells his apartment was on fire and he also had no choice apart from coming to the hostel. He is really obsessed by cleaning and order. The first day I came with a big luggage and a lot of packages, he put all of them in the wardrobe. During my stay he said several times how I should change order, how it is not comfortable for me to jump from the bed to the ground, how I should pay if I want to get more daylight reading books on the other free bed. He is sleeping 16 hours a day, then going to the bathroom to have a shower for 4 hours. He has as well the obsession not to touch anything. He is 37 years old, but when he wants to say there is a problem, he speaks like 10 years old child and he can't get that his habits can be problem for someone else. He'll tell that you are confused by the Danish traditions. On Saturday he started conversation with me again and I was very much stressed by the fact, a random person is teaching me how to live when I am already 19 and I have my own decision how to live, and that he knows so much facts about me and I haven't even shared anything with him and he doesn't have computers, so he can't see what I publish and how I communicate with another people.
In general, immigrants or candidate immigrants - people who knows what is to have nothing and want to succeed in Denmark, are behaving as parents and want to involve another people into their passion and obsession. In Bulgaria there is also the belief that life is black in Bulgaria and I should stay forever in Denmark and they want to hear no excuse, so I can see same type of behaviour from their side. My conclusion is that life is too short to be very ambitious and while you are young, you should get a lot of experience, live in different countries, before you find the place which you will call home, which is most likely to be your home city.
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